Loose Something? Cash, Weight…….

Most of us refer to weight loss or losing weight – it’s one of the highest search terms in google – and many people try to lose weight many times during their lives especially before a holiday or event (wedding, graduation etc) but how many of us question the actual language we use?

I will use the term ‘weight loss’ on my website as it’s what potential clients search for but I do not use it in my sessions! And if you think of it – there is a pretty obvious reason as to why it’s best to avoid the phrases ‘weight loss’ or ‘losing weight’ – and alteratively choosing a more motivating phrase instead.

When we talk about ‘loss’ in general – is it usually associated with happiness or sadness? Sadness – that’s right – loss of a loved one, job loss, loss of human rights etc. LOSS has many negative connotations to it and yet we use it more or less all the time when referring to the process of slimming or shedding excess fat! So no wonder you feel so miserable when you keep referring to weight loss on your journey to your ideal weight!!!

Also – what about losing weight? Do you want to lose weight? Yes of course you do but seriously – do you want to ‘find’ it again too? Probably not!!! When we lose something (usually car keys for me!) we ultimately set off to find it don’t we? So our mind has linked lost, loosing, lose etc with something that we need to find – so guess what – if it ‘hears’ your saying that you have lost weight – it may well feel obliged to help you find it again – just as it helped you find those missing keys the other week!

So chose your words wisely – every day – not just on matters of slimming! If you are trying to shed a few pounds or a mountain of fat – then tell yourself and others that you are ‘letting go’ of the excess fat/weight – as letting go suggests we had something once that served a purpose (a boyfriend/book/behaviour etc) but now we no longer need it so we ‘let it go’ to make us feel better.

Or use an even more positive phrase which not only uses more positive language but also provides an image (it will do each time you say it believe me) in your mind of your desired goal – the slimmer you.

Starting each day with a positive affirmation and visualization – of ‘I am slim and healthy’ focuses your mind on what you want (slim and healthy), tells your mind exactly what you want (slim and healthy) and helps you to remain focused on what you want to obtain (yes you’ve guessed it -slim and healthy).

Change your language today and see how much better you feel about your journey to a slimmer and healthier and happier you! IT Does make a difference to how you feel and if you feel better you will feel more motivated and if you feel more motivated (you are getting quick now aren’t you?!) you are more likely to succeed at reaching your ideal weight!

So chose to let go of your excess weight and focus on your ideal weight and shape – see it, hear it and feel it – it can be yours!

Good luck – and if you need some help with letting go of those nasty beliefs preventing you from reaching your ideal weight – give me a shout! I have helped hundreds (including myself) to fulfil their goals of reaching and maintain their ideal weight – so I can help you too!!

Hypnosis Helps IBS Sufferers

It is a well known fact that hypnosis can help you to stop smoking but did you know that it can help alleviate Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) symptoms too?

Some types of hypnotherapy and indeed NLP can get to the bottom (excuse the pun) of why you developed IBS in the first instance and as a result can help banish symptoms altogether.

Research from Sweden into hypnosis and IBS has conclusively found that hypnosis does help with symptoms of IBS

Perjohan Lindfors, a doctoral student at Sahlgrenska Academy, the University of Gothenburg, Sweden, came to this conclusion in a thesis titled “Implementation of gut-directed hypnotherapy for IBS in clinical practice.”

Lindfors believes hypnotherapy should become standard practice for patients with severe IBS.

Hypnotherapy helps reduce the impact of stress, which is a known aggravator of IBS symptoms, as well as help them to visualize their gut improving too. Visualization is key to improving IBS symptoms long term and is well documented in how it improves performance of top athletes and it can be utilized to improve gut performance too!

So if you want to find out more about how hypnosis can help you with your IBS then give me a call today  07532 110457 or visit my website for more details. 

Pain – Physical or Emotional?

The next time you experience back ache or a twinge of any nature think about whether it really is a physical pain. Most people assume wrongly that most pain is directly related to a physical issue such as wear and tear or damage and it most cases it rarely is!

Having helped many clients overcome chronic pain (migraines, back ache, shoulder pain) the thing that has most amazed them, apart from their lack of pain, is that the cause of their discomfort was directly related to an emotional ‘wound’ from the past.

Why we hang onto an emotional pain is usually very hard to contemplate, after all if we consciously had a choice to be pain free we would (hopefully) take it however our unconscious mind works slightly differently!

I will give you an example as way of explaining the basis of emotional pain and why we hand on to it. A client of mine came to see me about a recent knee injury that was still bothering her. She had been back and forth to the doctors and had had further x-rays but everything came back clear, which meant technically there was no physical reason for the pain she was still suffering.

When a physical injury has healed and there is still pain then this almost certainly is an emotional pain that you are hanging on to, albeit at an unconscious level.

So I chose to use EFT with this client to work on the pain that she was experiencing using the ‘chase the pain’ method which basically gets the client to focus on the pain and give it a colour, shape, texture etc as when we do this we are disconnecting from the pain. What is very common when doing this exercise is that the pain moves around the body and seems to change character (colour, shape, texture) as well as intensity.

I worked with her for nearly an hour and at the end of the session she was amazed at how much the pain had diminished. She was able to put her full weight on the leg without and major discomfort at all and all we had done was focus on the pain and what it represented to her internally.

Try this exercise and notice how much your pain diminishes after just one round of doing this! Focus on the pain your are experiencing at the moment, close your eyes and really ‘go inside’. Then ask yourself what level is your pain at if 10 was extremely painful and 0 was not at all and once you have got a figure, ask yourself the following questions:
if this pain had a colour, what colour would it be?
if this pain had a shape, what shape would it be?
if this pain had a texture, texture would it be?
if you could touch this pain would it be hot or cold to the touch?
if this pain had a weight how heavy or light would it be?
if this pain had a sound, what sound would it be?

After you have answered the above questions (go with what ever comes to mind because something will believe me!) focus once more on the pain that you were experiencing and you may well be surprised at how it has already decreased! Mark this new level and if you need to, go through the exercise again and you will find that each time you do this the details will change and your pain will decrease!

After a further session with my client we were able to locate the cause of her emotional pain and released this successfully with EFT and hypnotherapy. My client had begun her sessions very sceptical indeed and was relieved to discover that the pain had indeed been emotional and not physical, because now she was pain free.

EFT, hypnotherapy and NLP do also help manage physical pain as well as help the healing process too. So next time you get a twinge or a niggle, try this simple and quick exercise and release that pain!

Overcoming Anxiety Versus Anxiety Management

I am a registered Analytical Hypnotherapist and it is my job to help clients overcome almost any problems that they are experiencing from anxiety to bad habits to insomnia. However the major difference between Analytical Hypnotherapy and almost any other therapy including clinical hypnotherapy and counselling, is the ability to uncover the ’cause’ of the problem (effect).

Analytical Hypnotherapy is based on the ’cause and effect’ theory which states that for every effect (illness) there is a cause, which means there is a reason why symptoms or problems exist in our lives.

To explain this issue further I will talk about anxiety which is a common issue that I treat. Sufferers will vary in symptoms and severity – from mild (nervousness before public speaking ) to full blown panic (the thought of flying or being in a crowded place). Anxiety if left untreated can unfortunately get worse and can begin to affect most areas for the sufferers life and yes, relaxation, visualization, CBT and other therapies can help ease the symptoms but they do NOT resolve the anxiety or get rid of the symptoms.

No amount of talking or analyzing your symptoms or how you think you may have developed your anxiety will help you in any way, in fact it  can make the symptoms worse. Think about it – if you suffer from anxiety and you spend hours wondering about how you got it, how you can get rid of it, why you have it and whether you will have an attack when you next go out, you are bound to feel more anxious and a lot more fed up!

When I see clients who suffer from anxiety I will inform them that I am working to RESOLVE their anxiety i.e. get rid of the symptoms permanently. I will also explain that during the treatment (I have been through this myself and can vouch for this!) you may get days where you feel a lot better or a lot worse and that’s normal, as we are dealing with issues from the past. I will also explain that this is not about making them feel better in the short term (although I do give all my clients methods to control symptoms and lessen the effects of panic until their issues have been resolved) but about feeling better permanently!

So how does analyticial hypnotherapy banish anxiety permanently? Well anxiety is based on cause and effect which means that something in the sufferers life, has caused them to feel fearful and distressed and as a way to avoid similar situations, the individual will feel anxious next time they are in a similar situation i.e. anxiety is acting as a warning!  Now they may not experience the anxiety for many years after the first event however stress or another distressing event in their lives can then bring on the symptoms of anxiety.

For example, a person may develop anxiety after a ‘traumatic’ experience as a child and I use the word traumatic rather loosely and I will explain why. A child has less resources available to cope with some situations in life and under the age of 7 our ability to reason or question or use logic is very limited, so an incident which is funny to us an adult (because we can make sense of it and use reasoning) may be traumatic to a child.

For example, if an adult got locked in a car, the first thing they would do would try the locks and if that didn’t work they would shout for help or if they had their mobile, phone for help and they would probably laugh about the experience later – but they knew they could get out.  Now imagine a very young child getting locked in a car, they would not have the same skills as an adult and perhaps wouldn’t even realise there are locks on the doors. So they panic. They keep trying the doors and they won’t open and they try again and again and each time they get more and more upset because they don’t use logic – they don’t know someone will probably come along in a while see where they are or what the commotion is – so they panic.

Eventually mum comes out and rescues the child and calms the child down and all is well. Next time they get in the car they may feel a little anxious but because their parents are with them they feel safe. And they continue to feel safe through their childhood and teens and then one day they decide to take driving lessons and they pass and start to drive. One day they get in the car and as they begin to drive, they feel panicky, without really knowing why and then another day they have a full blown panic attack in the car – it comes totally out of the blue. They have no idea why they experienced the attack – but we can guess as to why they did.

Your subconscious mind remembers everything about your life and is there to protect you so it will remember that time all the way back when you were 2 or 3 and got locked in that car and how upset you were and because it doesn’t want you to experience that upset again – you develop anxiety. So that child felt anxious for a while in the car after but because her parents were always with her in the car, she felt safer and the anxiety ‘went away’. Until she was an adult and in the car on her own and because the adult has no recollection of her early experience they believe they have anxiety about driving – NOT being locked in a car. And then one day they get in a lift and it ‘feels’ the same as being locked in a car, so they have another panic attacks, so they avoid lifts in the future.

So anxiety acts as a warning – it creates a fear of being in similar situation as to the one which caused the upset – hence feeling anxious about being in the car on your own. Now analytical hypnotherapy works by taking the client back to the initial event that caused the anxiety i.e. being locked in the car and then works with the client to ‘resolve’ the fear around the situation. The subconscious mind will not let go of the anxiety until it knows that you can handle yourself in a similar situation in the future (and of course you can as you are an adult now- but you have to resolve the original source of fear to do that!)  So when I take a client back to the original event I will ask them how they would do things differently now, with the knowledge they have as an adult, as opposed to what they did then.

Once you have learned from the experience and your subconscious mind can see that you are able to protect yourself from any similar incidents in the future, it will let go of the anxiety,  because you don’t need to be ‘warned’ anymore as you now know what to do. Results are more or less immediate after resolution of their anxiety and clients find it incredible that their anxiety literally disappears, as did I when I went through my therapy for anxiety.

Analytical Hypnotherapy is very powerful as it releases symptoms permanently – it may take several weeks but the results last a lifetime! So if you want long term or permanent release from your symptoms the most cost and time effective way is analytical hypnotherapy! You could pay for 3 or 4 sessions of clinical hypnotherapy where you will feel a little better for a while, but your anxiety will soon return and sometime with avengeance!  So if you want total release from anxiety then you know what you need to do!

Take care and speak soon

Take Back Control Of Your Mind

If you suffer from anxiety, panic attacks or phobias then you are probably well aware of how your mind can be ‘hijacked’ in certain situations and as someone who used to suffer from panic attacks, I know only too well how it feels to lose control!

Unfortunately for the anxiety sufferer not only does their disorder leave them feeling cursed in some way but also, add in the anxiety of worrying about whether you are going to have an anxiety or panic attack out of the blue. So not only does the sufferer dread the attack itself – which is never pleasant – but they also learn to dread the possibility of having an attack too and this usually escalates over time and with the increased frequency of the attacks.

Now anxiety is a disorder which many never talk about let alone to admit too. ‘Mental’ disorders are still a subject that leaves many feeling uncomfortable – their issue – and it does not have to be yours! If you suffer from anxiety read up about it – find out what you can and the more information you have the better you will feel. You almost certainly are not going mad! Knowledge is power and as a hypnotherapist specializing in the resolution of anxiety, I am always amazed at how little sufferers know about their anxiety.

Anxiety can most certainly ruin your life it you let it but it can not kill you. The more you ‘dread’ the attack the more anxious you will feel unfortunately. I used to dread going into busy areas and would feel anxious before the event because I had already gone through an embarrassing episode in my mind, of having a major attack and feeling embarrassed and humiliated in front of all these people. My no wonder I felt so anxious an no wonder I was more than likely to have an attack!!

Realistically even if I did have a panic attack in public – who would actually be aware? And if some people were then it’s my choice whether I wish to feel embarrassed by it or not. And if I am not going to die from having a panic attack – then bring it on! It was only as I became a therapist that I became aware that I was programming my mind for more anxiety by the way I was ‘dealing’ with my plight.

So if you suffer from anxiety or panic, then how do you  begin to take back control? How do you  begin to feel ‘normal’ again? The first thing is to read up about anxiety, what it is, the causes, how to manage it and how it affects your mentally and physically. Yes an attack feel hideous but like a naughty child, the more attention and control you give it, the worse it will be.

One of the most effective ways you can loosen the grip of anxiety on your life is to re-write what you tell yourself in your mind. I am sure you have heard the saying that ‘what you focus on in life you will get’ and that is very true. Anxiety exists because you are NOT focusing on what you want. So by simply focusing on what you want – to remain calm and in control – you can change how you respond to trigger situations.

So as soon as you become aware of those ‘what if” thoughts or anxious thoughts, acknowledge them but do not get ‘involved’ in them and then immediately visualize yourself calm, in control and feeling really relaxed and happy and what this does is start to reprogram your mind. Instead, over time (usually 3 – 4 weeks)  of ‘what if I have an attack’  followed by all the other anxious thoughts………..you will notice you will start with the ‘what if” thoughts followed by a sense of inner calm and your unconscious mind ‘sees’ the image of you calm, relaxed and at ease. So what the mind can see the mind will achieve – simple!’

This visualization technique is powerful and can change how you feel dramatically and in order for it to be effective you need to do this exercise every time you become aware of those anxious thoughts. Also if you have a specific event that you feel anxious about, by visualizing a positive outcome, you are instructing your unconscious mind on how to respond in that situation. And if you run through this several times your mind will begin to see the picture and you may be pleasantly surprised by the results you obtain!

The more you use this visualization the quicker and more noticeable the changes you experience will be. When you do this visualization exercise, really get into what you see, hear and feel when you are calm and in control. If there are other people there then perhaps see how well they respond to you, how they enjoy listening to what you have to say – create the ideal situation and outcome -do not focus on anything negative – because not only are you telling your mind to focus on the negative but you will feel worse to. So always focus on how great you look and feel and how well the situation goes for you and you will begin to feel more and more confident too and less and less anxious! Its a great feeling believe me!

If you struggle with time constraints then ask yourself why is it that you don’t want to let go of your anxiety because ‘never having the time’ is resistance, so you will need to ask yourself what your anxiety is getting for you or what is it keeping your from – i.e. is it ensuring that you don’t feel judged when you go out, is it keeping you from a higher position of responsibility at work? Understanding how your anxiety is ‘helping’ you can be key to letting it go. If you feel judged or not good enough then focus on this when doing the visualization and remember you have a right to feel in control of your life – it is your life.

If you have severe anxiety, OCD (pure) then you may benefit from a course of hypnotherapy. Analytical hypnotherapy is a potent therapy for anxiety as it enables you to understand why it exists in the first place and this gives you the ability to resolve the issues surrounding the initial cause to enable you to let go permanently of your anxiety symptoms.

If you would like any more info on anxiety hypnosis then drop me a line!



Successful And Permanent Weight Loss

Now I am not going to tell you that diets don’t work – you already know that! How many diets have you tried over the years? How many times have you successfully failed at losing the weight for any length of time? You may well have lost some weight initially on a diet but probably put all the weight that you lost back on once the diet stopped or your will power caved in. Which ever came first.

Diets fail because they are more about starvation and less about eating when you are hungry. They are more about not eating the food you want and more about denying yourself. I want you to NOT think about chocolate or cake – I bet you just did! You see in order to not think about something (forbidded food!) you have to first think about it – so no suprises it is on your mind!

Hypnotherapy has proven to be successful for long term weight loss in many research articles. Hypnotherapy will help you overcome your cravings (eating some of what you fancy as opposed to lots of what you crave); incorporate more healthy food options; help you notice when you are physically hungry (as opposed to emotionally hungry) and the comfortably full feeling you get when you have eaten enought for your body; change poor eating habits (for example chosing unhealthy snacks or eating close to bedtime).

However whilst all of the above are crucial to successful weight loss – as with diets – just ensuring that you alter eating habits with hypnotherapy is not sufficient to long term weight loss. If you are after long term or permanent results then you need to resovle the underlying  motivation behind your overeating.

Motivational factors include eating when bored, lonely, sad or frustrated or some people eat as a reward or a punishment. You may find that you eat to make yourself unattractive to the other sex (usually an unconscious decision and one that you are rarely aware of on a conscious level). Whatever the compelling force behind your overeating – until you uncover and resovle it – it will always be there.

Once cause of your overeating has been resolved, you no longer feel compelled to overeat. Further hypnotherapy is still required to change existing bad habits and once these have been reprogrammed to healthy eating patterns you begin to lose weight. You find that you begin to really enjoy eating food – you dont even think about food until you are hungry.

Your whole relationship to food changes when you resolve the underlying motivation to overeating and replace existing bad habits – you then go on to lose weight and keep it off.

Many of my cleints opt for the Hypnotic Gastric Band (which is hightly successful as it does tackle the motivation behind overeating as well unlike most other methods of gastric band hypnosis) as they have read such amazing success stories. However like the real Gatric Band – they Hypnotic Gastric Band will ultimately fail IF your motivation is not resolved.

As I uncover and resolve the cause of your overeating I gain permanent results. If you wish to find out more information on successful weight loss hypnotherapy including the powerfully new hypnotic gastric band (Virtual Gastric Band) then give me a  call today!

Remember – you only have one live so chose the life you wish to live!

What makes our bad habits hard to give up?

How many bad habits do you have? And how many have you tried to give up? How many have you successfully overcome? Difficult isnt it?

So what makes a bad habit hard to give up?

I am sure there are many of you that have tried to overcome addictions or annoying bad habits – and no matter how hard you try – the addiction or habit remains. What you have to understand that more often than not – a habit has an unconscious positive intention. However annoying or bad for us the habit is – we generally learnt if for a reason!

For all those smokers out there – how bad was your first cigarette? If you are like me – it was disgusting.  So what makes us continue to smoke? The positive benefit we get from smoking is the reason we ‘learn’ the habit and maintain it and it is this same positive intention that makes it almost impossible to give up smoking or bad habits.

If you are struggling to give up something which you know is harming you in some way – either financially, health or relationship wise – consider what benefits you are getting from the habit. I used to pull out my hair and went for hypnotherapy to help me overcome it, however the hypnotherapist only addressed the bad habit and not what the habit was doing for me – so needless to say the habit remained!

Most habits and addictions provide us with something positive such as stess release, a way to reduce emotional distress or anxiey or even relieve boredom. So the pain that we associate with them may be high but the pleasure (or benefits) are even higher and until we replace these benefits with another more positive ‘habit’  such as relaxation, exercise etc – the bad habit will remain.

So in order to successfully overcome your bad habit – address the benefits you gain from it (these may be unconscious but with some investigation are easy to discover!) and then chose a more positive and constructive habit to replace the old one. It you associate more pleasure with the new habit then you will easily replace the old bad habit.

If you are finding it hard to overcome an addiction or habit – give me a call – I am always willing to help. Been there – done it and often wore the T-Shirt!