I recently read an article where the author discussed ways to let go of negativity and anger and I have to say I loved one of her suggestions, quite simply due to its simplicity yet unassuming power.
The suggestion was to repeat a simple prayer/statement when we see or meet other people, whether we know them or not and regardless of how we feel about them. And to use it with yourself too – to lessen that negative voice in our heads! The prayer is:
I only see the light in you.
Simple. Powerful. Transformational.
All too often we can become bogged down in ‘they did this’, ‘they did that’ mentality and we become trapped in a whirlwind of negative thoughts and feelings as a result, which can lead us to say and do things that perhaps, in retrospect, we wished we hadn’t done.
When we begin to see the good in people and focus on their light, we begin to not only think about these people differently, but behave in a more positive manner towards them too. Remember that, just because someone may be rude to us, we do not have to be rude in return. Instead, we can begin to look beyond their rudeness to the person underneath – to their real self. After all, who hasn’t had a bad day?
This prayer does not just relate to those ‘out there’ but to ourselves too. When we begin to focus on what we got right, the things we do well, our strengths and how amazing we are and can be – we also begin to feel very differently about ourselves too. We begin to feel more loving, accepting and respectful of the wonderful individual that we are.
When we see the light in ourselves and others, it lifts our mood, enhances better relationships and can help transform our negative approach to everyday life. It also makes you more appreciative of the people in your life too. After all, when we act more compassionately towards others, they in turn can act more compassionately towards us.
I know some days it is hard to like some people and that’s okay but to move beyond our rigid thoughts on who we believe them to be (bad) to who they could be (good) allows us to let go of the negative drivel that takes over our minds and consumes our precious time and energy.
There are days when I felt peeved, to say the least, with others and lashed out saying things that were completely inappropriate and yes, whilst I’m being honest here, judgemental too. But who am I to judge? Do I honestly know everyone and their lives? Do I perceive myself as better than others? No.
And when we begin to see the light in others – they begin to shine brighter and so do we and that has to be a good thing, don’t you think?
So after a recent ‘episode’ I stumbled across this prayer and thought – why not give it a go? And now when I think on my kids, family, friends, colleagues and people that I don’t particularly like, I silently say this prayer. I say it whenever I remember to and now have added it to my vision board as a reminder.
Have I noticed a difference? Yes! I feel more loving towards my kids and family, grateful for my friends and more appreciative of myself too. I am more willing to help others, especially my kids and am less judgemental. I am less easy to rise to an unkind word or bad behaviour and am more able to see another side to everyone – even those that at one time I thought I couldn’t. And more importantly, I am more grateful for those in my life and as a result, happier too.
Most people are not ‘bad’ people and are certainly not bad 100% of the time, so give people a chance. Focus on what you want to see in them and you will begin to see it more and more. What you focus on in life, you attract into your life, so shine a light on others and allow your light to shine bright!
The light in me salutes the light in you.