Tapping Away With EFT

EFT or tapping as it is commonly known has been around for a fair few years and it’s a great way to release outdated patterns of behaviour, pain and limiting beliefs amongst other things.

So what is EFT or tapping? Well it’s a powerful tool which uses your mind, your meridians and focus in order to tap away anything that bothers you though you can’t make your noisy neighbour disappear!

The idea is that emotions from the past are trapped within us at an energy level (we are 100% made up of energy right down at the quantum level) and by tapping on certain points (on our meridians) we can release these trapped emotions and improve our mental, emotional and physical well-being.

If you don’t thing old emotions get trapped within our body – then take a moment to think about a bad memory. One that you can recall in some detail (not too distressing) and as you think about it, how did you feel? Could you feel that old emotion again? Now think of a happy memory and immerse yourself in it for a few moments and you will find that you can still feel those old happy feelings.

A phobia is a classic example of a trapped emotion (fear) that our mind has not processed properly which means that each time you see the trigger for your phobia, you feel panic straight away.

So by going back to old memories and tapping on how they made us feel, we can begin to release the attached emotion and release the negative impact on our lives. What you will notice is that old memories or limiting beliefs, once you tap away the emotion, will cease to have an impact on us.

If you have an old habit you want to get rid of or a phobia, then EFT is a great way to do it and to help you on your way I have attached a file for you to use which has some basic instructions on how to use EFT. I use the choices method as I find it more powerful as you are clearly stating that yoyour life. Life is all about choices!

So click on the link below and have a look at YouTube at the hundreds of videos on EFT and have a go. Or if you prefer get in contact and I can help you more towards a more calmer, happier you.

And remember ANY TAPPING IS BETTER THAN NO TAPPING, so happy tapping!

Click here for instructions – EFT Choice Method

Forgiveness and Inner Peace

I’ve already abandoned one of my New Years resolutions and decided it was time to work towards another in order to  move out of the stifling confinement created by my self imposing  comfort zone. So I took a deep breath and resolved to work on some old issues that were keeping me trapped and tortured – ouch!

So after the usual fight at bed time between my adorable (I am focusing on positives here in order to maintain inner serenity) boys, I sat in bed, turned the light off and meditated. I felt something stir and it wasn’t a pleasant feeling, rest assured. The pain in my shoulder was desperately trying to gain my attention. Time to dig deep and uncover some dirt…

I ‘found’ a limiting belief that had made a dramatic appearance earlier that day and began tapping. EFT is an amazing tool which can help you release and let go of all the crap from the past – it’s great and if you’re like me, you can literally feel the changes happening as you let go of negative energy. (I much prefer the choice method of EFT which seems to shift issues quicker – Click the following link for a free copy of my instructions – EFT Choice Method

I tapped away on all the anger, sadness linked to the origins of this limiting belief – boy did I rant and cry and rant some more! (anger usually always masks fear and sadness) And then, all of a sudden, I stopped. I began to see that the pain I was feeling was as a result of the pain that my parents and others who were involved, were feeling. Yes, their actions and words had been cruel or harsh at times but why was that? More than likely because I had touched a nerve in them.

So my focus switched to forgiving my parents and those who I recognised attributed to this belief and what a difference that made! I literally noticed the heaviness in my shoulders lifting as I continued to tap, to forgive and to understand their pain and how their actions were simply as a result of the inner pain they felt.

When I felt lighter and the intensity of the initial pain dwindled, I realised that sometimes forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools to bring about transformation in the present, whilst letting go of the past. To recognise that the pain people cause you is intrinsically linked to the pain they feel inside is incredibly liberating. To understand this is to understand the idea of forgiveness.

After all, I am a parent and whilst I love my kids, there are times when I have been awful with them and why? Because of the pain that I hold inside me and the ways they trigger this pain. And knowing this was true for my parents too, helped me release a lot of perceived pain – pain that was never really mine to own!

So now I’ve decided to continue with forgiveness in order to feel less burdened in the present moment and I suggest you work on forgiveness too – and remember – to forgive yourself too. Remember, we all do the best we can with the inner resources we have, at any given moment.

So cut yourself some slack and start your forgiveness journey, with the help of EFT, today. You WILL notice a difference.

Take care.



Faster Than Before

I am a fully qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, EFT Practitioner, Reiki Master, Time Line Therapist, Anger Management and Weight Management Consultant and Meditation Teacher amongst other things…..phew!

I use most of what I have learnt during my sessions with clients and there are one or two things that I find work well and which I enjoy using  myself too. Visualization is incredibly powerful and can lift your mood as well as transform your future. But what about letting go of the proverbial crap from your past?

I stumbled on Faster EFT recently – the ‘baby’ of Robert Smith (no not that Robert Smith…). I love EFT as I find it calming, soothing and incredibly quick at letting go of hurts and trauma from the past, however this Faster EFT not only works just as effectively as EFT, it is also quicker and easier to use. And what I like the most is, its a tool which my clients can utilise away from therapy too. Win;Win all round!

The process is simple to follow and works quickly on releasing ‘trapped’ emotions from the past and if you don’t think you carry around trapped emotions, think of a memory which was particularly upsetting to you at the time or frightening and notice how you can still feel those old feelings.

Basically you focus on a ‘bad’ memory, and the feelings it brings up in you whilst tapping certain acupressure points on your face and collar bone and that’s it! Simple. Effective and quick. I like it and it works well with my clients too!

I use Faster EFT myself, especially after a bad day or if I have any unexplained aches and pains – its awesome! So if you are struggling to let go of the past or any limiting beliefs, give this amazing tool a go. Visit my website to access a free copy of how to do Faster EFT or have a look on YouTube – there are plenty of videos on there which you can tap along to!

Have a peek at the free Faster EFT script courtesy of Robert Smith – and have a go. You have everything to gain and nothing what so ever to lose!

Weight A Minute

I have a lot of respect for people who ‘own’ their problems and as a therapist, in order to help people overcome issues in their lives, they have to accept responsibility for them. That does not mean to say that they are to ‘blame’ for these issues, it merely means that they are willing to admit that these issues are affecting their lives.

I work with many people who are overweight and I am more than happy to help people who accept that something they are doing, or not doing, is leading to their weight issues. After all, if people refuse to believe that they are in any way responsible – how can I help them? I can try and tackle the manufacturers of the crap they eat, or the owners of the fast food joints they are addicted to – but seriously, even if I managed to close these guys down, would that really help my client?

I offer free consultations to all perspective clients and I met a woman recently who asked for help with her weight issues. During the consultation it become obvious that she refused to accept responsibility for her being overweight. She failed to see how anything she did or didn’t do resulted in her firstly being overweight and secondly, her inability to shift the excess weight. She had no health related issues that would affect her weight.

Asking about her past it became apparent that she had a lot of unresolved anger surrounding her apparent mistreatment by her parents. Once again, she refused to admit that carrying around anger from her childhood was her choice and hence her responsibility. In fact she was incredibly upset that I was not on her ‘side’ with regards to how she had a right to still feel angry fifty years later.

At the end of the consultation I asked her how I could help her. She stated plainly, ‘by helping me to lose weight.’ I nodded to show I understood. I then asked her how she believed I could help her. She was stumped.

I then went on to explain how I worked with weight loss clients to overcome any emotional attachments they may have to food, as well as poor eating habits and any unresolved issues or misunderstandings from the past that could impact on their eating habits at present. However, as she had clearly (and adamantly) stated during the consultation, that she had no such issues, I was unable to help her at this time.

Needless to say she was less than happy, very angry at the wasted time and off she went, never to be seen by me again!

However, if she had have been open to the fact that something she was doing was causing her issues, like every one of the clients I see, I could have helped her. But how can I help someone who does not want to be helped? How can you help someone if they cannot see their part in the problem, especially when they know there is a problem? You can’t.

Until you appreciate that every issue you have is your issue – regardless of where it came from – you  cannot move on. You cannot resolve any problems until you see that you are responsible for resolving them or dealing with them – no one else. It doesn’t matter how they came about, all that matters is that you realise you have a problem and that it is down to you to do something about it.

I have helped hundreds of people shed their excess weight – and I love seeing how thrilled they are when they get the results they wanted. The best thing is, these clients were totally honest from the start, some embarrassed by their poor eating habits or mortified by their lifestyle choices, but they bit the proverbial bullet and took ownership of their part in their excessive weight and as a result, were rewarded by an amazing and wonderful weight loss experience!

So next time you moan about your weigh,t ask yourself what you can do to help you let go of your excess weight. No one else can lose your weight for you – only you can do that. And you can only lose weight if you are honest with yourself first.