I can remember as a child my dad reciting that popular phrase that ‘words will never hurt me’ and thinking it strange then. As a child I only ever thought of the pain inflicted physically by the ‘sticks and stones’ and never quite understood (although at some level I obviously did!) that words could hurt.
Read any good self help book out there today and most will touch on the element of choice in our lives. We can chose what we want to eat, we can chose where we want to live and we can even chose our moods too. The same goes for the words that we speak and the words that we utter.
It is said that successful people think carefully about the words that they use by ensuring they create a positive impact on those they are intended for. Hypnotists weave an incredibly intricate web of words to create positive change in their clients and lovers use sensuous words to captivate their lovers.
So when was the last time you actually thought about what you say or think? Perhaps it’s about time you took a serious look inside your mind and recreate a new language of love, positivity, gratitude and humility – you may be surprised at the changes you experience.
We all know that angry, hurtful words such as ‘hate’. ‘fear’, ‘ugly’ and ‘stupid’ can have a very negative impact on an individual – who wants to hear someone call them ugly or tell them they hate them? But did you know these words have an impact on you another level too, other than the emotional?
Words can actually hurt on a physical level too – on a psychological level. Imagine a child being told daily by their parents that they are stupid and useless – they grow up wrongly believing that they are stupid and useless. Now if you believe that you are useless and stupid you are far more likely to worry about your performance in any area of life – so you may well suffer from increased anxiety and stress.
Stress as we know does affect our physical welfare and can be a killer – so you can see how words can impact on our physical welfare too. Furthermore, you may also punish yourself, albeit, on an unconscious level, which can impact both emotionally and physically too.
There is also a well-respected research article on the effects of words on water by Dr. Emoto. He concluded that negative words negatively impact on the structure of water whereas positive words had the opposite effect and bearing in mind that the human body is made up of between 60 – 80% water, then you can start to see how words can impact on how we feel!
So if you want to feel better and make those you love feel a whole lot better too then consider how you use your words. They can either make or break a person and the world would be a better place if we treated each other with the respect we wish to be treated with and the words we would love to hear.